Keep the glass half full, not half empty.
When
we think about something we want, a necessary part of that is realizing we
don't have it. That can turn into a whirlwind of negativity, starting us down
the path of self-pity, lethargy, and ending in a box of w(h)ine. Don't go
there! Think about what you do have, what you're grateful for. Only then can
you make what you have better.
v Make of list of 10 things you have and are thankful for. Go
through it every day (and then come up with another one when you think of
more). Focusing on what you have done, made, and are will instill in you a
sense of confidence. When your attitude is, "Heck yeah, I can do
this!" (looking at your past accomplishments will prove to you you can!)
it makes the goal a lot easier to reach.
Find out just what you need to do.
Let's
say, for example, that you want to become an actor. That's great! ...But where
do you get started? Not knowing the first thing about how to do something can
be very intimidating and stop you dead in your tracks. Dream automatically
crushed. But when you know the path you need to take, it's a lot easier to hop
on.
v Tap into your resources. With technology, you have the veritable
world at your fingertips. That's code for "you have no excuses." Ask
friends, acquaintances, people that look like they've done it on the street --
doesn't matter. Do your research online and figure out the best, most efficient
way to get done what you need done. You'll end up feeling like an expert and
the knowledge will ease your mind. This will usher out the worry and negative
self-talk and bring in the confidence and go-getting attitude.
Surround yourself with positivity.
The
world is full of naysayers. You could say, "Tomorrow I'm going to breathe
all day!" and you'd be able to find someone who would bet you $10 you
won't do it. It's best just to avoid these people. They're miserable and don't
deserve your attention.
v Okay, these people can be helpful in very, very, very small
amounts. If you do find yourself next to that negative Nancy and you can't
escape her, let her fuel your fire. Let her burn you up inside until you have
no choice but to do the exact thing she thinks you're not capable of. Her
defiance of your ability can lead to just the right amount of adrenaline and
determination you need to get the job done. Maybe one day you'll be able to
thank her! Gosh, wouldn't you both just love that.
Start small.
There's
no way having a goal of "becoming world famous" or "losing 75
pounds by winter" or even "mastering the clarinet" are ever
going to happen easily. Alright, so maybe those are a bit extreme, but you get
the point. Having a goal that just isn't going to happen will turn you off and
keep you from being successful.
v Instead of becoming world famous, losing a ton of weight, or
mastering the clarinet, opt for having a successful YouTube channel, losing 10
pounds this month, or playing a classical piece on the clarinet. All these
things are working toward these super-massive goals, but they're doable. Doable
is something you can stick to.
v Start small in the mornings. If you have a list of tasks, you
may find it beneficial to start with the smallest one. This gets the ball
rolling and eases you in to the harder parts of the day. Getting going really
is half the battle.
Use visualization.
For a
few minutes each day, sit down and visualize obtaining your goal. Visualize
having it. Being it, doing it, achieving it, whatever. What does it feel like?
After the few minutes are up, how do you feel?
v Make sure to use all your senses. What do you taste, smell, see,
feel, and hear? What is life truly like? What adjectives can you use to
describe this new life of yours? Work in the details to make it as clear as
possible. Where are you? What are you doing? What are you wearing? How do you
look? Who is with you?
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