Loneliness
Loneliness
– that painful feeling of isolation from others – is familiar to most students.
It takes different forms in different people. Some feel lonely when they are
excluded by an individual or a group (social loneliness); other people feel lonely
when they have no one to talk to about their deepest concerns, or with whom to
build a close personal relationship (emotional loneliness).
Loneliness
is different from solitude: we choose solitude for an opportunity to be still
or to reflect on our lives.
Being
alone doesn’t automatically mean loneliness – many people enjoy it. We
experience loneliness as an involuntary lack of connectedness to others. And
you can feel lonely in a group or a crowd. You can also feel lonely with a
partner, best friend, or family member.
Causes
- Separation
from family and friends
- New
and unfamiliar surroundings
- Shyness
- The
break-up of a relationship
- Fear
of rejection or repeated relationship disappointments
- Absence
of people who understand you, your interests or experiences
Effects
- Poorer
academic performance resulting from decreased self-confidence
- The
(false) assumption that others are evaluating you negatively
- Unrealistic
expectations, like thinking everyone should like or include you
- Difficulty
introducing yourself, making phone calls, or participating in group
- Activities
- Dependence
on others to build your self-esteem and initiate activities
- The
possibility of becoming more isolated, withdrawn, angry, unhappy
Become an observer
Notice
when loneliness hits you (what times of day; holidays, anniversaries,
birthdays) and plan to be busy during these times. Watch for behaviour that
perpetuates your loneliness, and ways you put up barriers to others.
Solutions
Psychological
Counselling helps to cope up with loneliness.
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